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Post Mother’s Day Reflections

Now that the flowers are in water, the brunches eaten, and the cards placed somewhere conspicuous, it might be fun to take a look at the history of the annual sentimental celebration called Mother’s Day. As far as I’m concerned, mothers are those women in our lives who nurture us, believe in us, and love us unconditionally. As Oprah Winfrey said “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.”  

Americans idealize motherhood.“It is by the cradle of their children,” Judith Sargent Murray wrote in 1798, “that mothers find their happiness. Where are the powerful emotions of nature? Where is the sentiment, at once sublime and pathetic, that carries every feeling to excess? [It is] in the warm and affectionate bosom of a mother.”

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Gerald Ford Jr.’s Baptismal Photo, 1914
US Public Domain
Wikimedia Commons

Women have come a long way since 1798, but the concept of Motherhood hasn’t.  The above 1914 photo of Gerald Ford and his mother is what we want to see – a child nurtured by a young mother. The imagery carries over into this 1987 mother and daughter photo.

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Mother and Daughter, 1987
Photo by Bill Branson
US Public Domain, Wikimedia Commons

 Mother’s Day began as one daughter’s somewhat obsessive tribute to her mother.  Ann Reeves Jarvis, the “original mother,” married in 1850. She was 18 years old. Over the next six years, Jarvis gave birth to six children. Four died of then common childhood diseases: diphtheria, scarlet fever, and whooping cough. Jarvis believed there was a connection between disease and basic sanitation, and took action to remedy those conditions by organizing Mother’s Work Clubs. Motto:

“Mother’s Work –

For Better Mothers, Better Homes,

Better Children, Better Men and Women.”

 When Jarvis died in 1905, her daughter Anna received such an outpouring of sympathy, she decided to honor her mother by establishing a day of gratitude dedicated to the sacrifices mothers routinely and invisibly make to their family and country. Anna was very specific that the apostrophe in Mother’s Day be after the letter “r” to connote individual mothers, not mothers everywhere.

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Anna Jarvis
Courtesy of Olairian
Creative Commons Attribution
Wikimedia Commons

By 1909 Anna’s efforts paid off with Mother’s Day church services held in all 46 states. On May 8, 1914 Congress passed a Joint Resolution requesting President Woodrow Wilson to issue a proclamation that Americans fly the flag on the second Sunday in May “as a public expression of our love and reverence for the mothers of our country.” The president complied on May 9.

You might think Anna Jarvis was thrilled with the new national observance. But, no. Anna wanted Americans to take a day to personally honor their mothers. Retailers, always ready to help, suggested candy, flowers, and cards to which Anna responded: “A printed card means nothing except that you are too lazy to write the person who has done more for you than anyone in the world.” [OUCH!]

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US Postage
In Memory and in Honor of the Mothers of America
3 Cents

In 1934 Mrs. H. H. McCluer requested the Postmaster to issue a commemorative stamp honoring mothers. President Franklin D. Roosevelt approved the request and a three-cent stamp featuring “Whistler’s Mother” went into circulation. This meant that Mother’s Day cards could be sent with an appropriate stamp. Although I’m not persuaded all American mothers identified with James Whistler’s 1871 portrait of his apparently long-suffering mother.

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The American Woman (Postage Stamp)
Civic Affairs–Education–Arts-Industry
4 Cents

In 1960 the post office issued a four-cent stamp titled “The American Woman.” Images denoting civil affairs, education, the arts, and industry surround a central design of a mother and daughter with an open book in front of them, “symbolizing women in the home.”  Something of an improvement — at least the mother has an engaged expression.

Yesterday was the 100th official celebration of Mother’s Day. It’s highly likely Anna Jarvis spent the day spinning in her grave.  The National Retail Federation projected total spending on Mother’s Day items at $19.9 million. Mother’s Day is the most popular holiday for dining out, the third most popular holiday for sending cards, the second most popular day for giving gifts, and the second busiest day for florists.

I disagree with Anna Jarvis. I think the apostrophe in Mother’s Day should be after the letter “s” to include all the women who love and nurture children. And whether Mothers’ Day is commemorated with a card, a flower, candy or a meal is not the point. Mothers’ Day is a chance to say “thank you.” I hope your day included thanks given and received. And that your gratitude isn’t confined to one day of the year.

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Mothers’ Day Flowers

 

Acknowledgements:

Photos of flowers by Author.

“How Mother’s Day Founder Went Completely Insane Defending It.” NY Post. May 10, 2014.

http://nypost.com/2014/05/10/how-mothers-days-founder-went-completely-insane-defending-it/

Brian Handwerk. “Mother’s Day Turns 100: Its Surprisingly Dark History. National Geographic. May 8, 2014.

http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2014/05/140508-mothers-day-nation-gifts-facts-culture-moms/

Judith Sergent Murray. Observations of Female Abilities. 1798

Marie Tyler-McGraw. “Mother’s Day Revisited.” Goldenseal. October-November 1977, vol. 3, no. 4.

http://www.wvculture.org/goldenseal/mothersday.html

Author Sandra Wagner Wright

Sandra Wagner-Wright is the author of Two Coins: A Biographical Novel and Rama's Labyrinth. Both books are available in digital and print editions at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Apple Books, and Kobo. Rama’s Labyrinth and Two Coins are available as audiobooks.

Sandra blogs weekly about topics related to her travels, writing life, and the incongruities of life in general.

2 thoughts on “POST MOTHER’S DAY REFLECTIONS

  1. Hi Sandra,

    Another enjoyable one, have not had time for a while. Always good laughs. When we were in the flower business, mother’s day was the biggest day, I wonder what has happened? Is it the girlfriends (maybe multiple) have taken over the minds? Or are they doing the statistics different, when people send stuff for a week, not just to arrive on Sat before Sun.

    Oh well. Wishing you well, and thank you!

  2. Mahalo for your thoughts, Paula. I think the stats between Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day are pretty close. One source says Valentine’s is busiest, another that its Mother’s Day. Either way, it’s a lot of flowers. lol

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